Your sharing completely aligns with my journey, Beth. I am pursuing some therapy from the Internal Family Systems work by Richard Schwartz to unpack some of my internal "exiles" and "protectors" who have done such a good job of insulating me from harm, that I found myself unable to finish the sentence "What I want next is.....". I see this also as the classic female position of identifying with such clarity the needs of the Other, that I now search for the words to express my own. The current full moon shines on us to offer better light in the dark times, and a chance to shed that which no longer serves us. I raise my cup to you this morning in appreciation for your offering and a shared phenomenon.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing a snippet of your current path, Teri. I can relate so much. As I began the recovery process, asking myself what I wanted was such a challenge for the beautifully stated reasons that you offered. I don't even know what I wanted for lunch! Learning to have my own wants, needs, and preferences had been a core part of this work. And the IFS model is so helpful. Hugs for your journey!
Thank you for sharing this. I’m going to be starting an exploratory orienting practice today because of this. Your experience resonates with me deeply as I too have always connected my own wellbeing to the wellbeing of others around me - whether they’re important to me or not. This article was a much needed reminder that I need to continue working on this. Thank you!
Liz, I so appreciate your thoughtful response. The resonance here is real for us. And what you say is so true- whether they're important to us or not! I'm so conditioned to even bend over backwards for a complete stranger at times to my own detriment! What!? This is quite a journey. Lots of love for your practice💜
Your sharing completely aligns with my journey, Beth. I am pursuing some therapy from the Internal Family Systems work by Richard Schwartz to unpack some of my internal "exiles" and "protectors" who have done such a good job of insulating me from harm, that I found myself unable to finish the sentence "What I want next is.....". I see this also as the classic female position of identifying with such clarity the needs of the Other, that I now search for the words to express my own. The current full moon shines on us to offer better light in the dark times, and a chance to shed that which no longer serves us. I raise my cup to you this morning in appreciation for your offering and a shared phenomenon.
Peace,
Teri
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing a snippet of your current path, Teri. I can relate so much. As I began the recovery process, asking myself what I wanted was such a challenge for the beautifully stated reasons that you offered. I don't even know what I wanted for lunch! Learning to have my own wants, needs, and preferences had been a core part of this work. And the IFS model is so helpful. Hugs for your journey!
Thank you, Beth. Enjoy your family time soon. :)
Thank you for sharing this. I’m going to be starting an exploratory orienting practice today because of this. Your experience resonates with me deeply as I too have always connected my own wellbeing to the wellbeing of others around me - whether they’re important to me or not. This article was a much needed reminder that I need to continue working on this. Thank you!
Liz, I so appreciate your thoughtful response. The resonance here is real for us. And what you say is so true- whether they're important to us or not! I'm so conditioned to even bend over backwards for a complete stranger at times to my own detriment! What!? This is quite a journey. Lots of love for your practice💜